EFT and the BIG stuff – Battling a Giant with little rocks

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The psychiatrists said to her ” it’s Clinical Episodic Depression and by the way, you’ll never get over it.”

This is from Kari – she hasn’t had an episode in years. It took her awhile cause she didn’t want to tap on her own, but she kept coming to me and we cleared it! Here’s what she has to say.

Using EFT/Matrix Reimprinting for Depression: Like Battling a Giant with Really Small, Surprisingly Effective Rocks

Tapping is the stupidest thing you’ll ever do.

I realize that I just potentially offended an entire, ever-growing community of people, but it’s true. Tapping is probably the stupidest thing you’ll ever do. Think about it – there are “special places” all over your face and body and if you bang on these enough, while saying some words and imagining some stuff all your problems will go away. To make it even more ridiculous, you can imagine banging on the face of an imaginary younger version of yourself and your problems will go away even faster. And let’s face it, you know that when you’re sitting there, eyes closed, trying to picture your inner four year old, touching your face like a crazy person with a nervous tic, and mumbling that you truly and deeply love and accept yourself anyway – you probably look pretty stupid. In fact, we can go ahead and remove the “probably” – you look stupid.

The problem with this stupid thing is that it actually works. That isn’t to say that it feels any less silly or ridiculous while you’re doing it, and that isn’t to say that you’ll suddenly stop feeling the urge to sigh and roll your eyes every time your practitioner asks you to “ask your little self how they feel”, and it certainly doesn’t mean that all of your issues, problems, and troubles will disappear in a cloud of magic tapping dust tomorrow, but it is to say that you will be involved in a process that will help you to slowly but surely move forward once and for all. And what’s even better is that you will start to feel a difference, see changes in yourself and various parts of your life, and you will get better – it just takes some time and a whole lot of looking stupid.

Everyone who taps gets to go through the “this is so stupid, I can’t believe I’m doing this, this thing can’t possibly actually work” phase – and for some it’s longer than others – but for those dealing with heavy and complex issues like depression, the experience is a little more complicated. You see, depression isn’t something that happens over night – and I speak from experience. Depression is something that creeps in slowly, almost elusively, like putting ink in a jar of water. It creeps. It blurs reality. It affects everything. And when it finally settles, everything seems a little darker – actually, it all seems a lot darker. And you find yourself looking around at all the inky, cloudy water – complete with black ink-sludge on the bottom – and you think “Holy !!##&*@. There’s no way I can clean this up. I don’t even have the energy to think about where to begin, I think I’ll just sleep instead. This is utterly and terribly hopeless.”  So you sit inside of your little, inky jar, feeling depressed, and sad, and hopeless, and unmotivated, and wishing things weren’t like this and having no idea if you’ll have to live like this forever. Meds might help. Talking to someone might help. Seeing a therapist might help. All of these things help you cope with and rationalize the situation, but none of them make the darkness – the depression – go away.

Enter tapping (cue glorious music from the sky, a video montage of clouds opening, and maybe even the voice of Morgan Freeman!). Tapping is supposed to be able to help! There’s a success rate and testimonials from other people who couldn’t get out of their inky, water-filled jars and got better from doing this stupid thing, and suddenly, even though you can hardly believe it (even though you’re terrified to believe it because what if it doesn’t work on you??!), there’s some hope. A glimmer through the muck and mire. And so you resolve yourself, as difficult as resolve feels most of the time, that you’re going to try it. You read all of the success stories and watch all of the near-miraculous videos and You Tube clips and talk to as many people as you can and when you finally try this miraculous, godsend of a cure, your realize how stupid it feels, how you don’t really wanna talk to any *#%! younger version of yourself, let alone bang on their faces, you don’t feel like doing work on your own in-between sessions even though your practitioner highly recommends it, and my god it’s taking so long why is it taking so long????

In these moments, remember that depression (or fill in the blank with the disorder of your choice!) most likely didn’t happen over night, and there’s no reason to expect that it will go away over night – but it will go away. It can be defeated. Again, I speak from experience. Think of tapping like this (I really like metaphors): Tapping is like fighting giants with stones. Some giants are bigger than others (depression is huge, a spider phobia? Not so huge), and some stones are bigger than others. At first, it’s totally natural to look at the pile of stones that you have and think, “There is no way in #@!! these will ever take down that whole giant,” but you lob one at him anyway, just because, well, you’ve tried everything else and you may as well cross this stupid tapping stuff off your list too. The stone you threw (not very zealously, I might add, because you were too busy being skeptical and convincing yourself that it wouldn’t work anyway), hits the giant’s little finger. Not exactly deadly, but to your surprise, his little pinky finger disintegrates. Poof. Gone. Just like that. You stare at the space where his finger once was in shock. It worked! These stones may seem small compared to the giant, but they’re surprisingly effective. It’s easy to get hung up on how huge the giant seems – your depression giant is a big one – he’s been binging on chocolate and carbs to make himself feel better and spending most of his days laying in bed – but if you keep lobbing stones, knowing that if you just hit him again, another piece of him will disintegrate, and then another, and another, and so on. If you feel motivated to tap on your own and you throw some extra stones, great! But if not, it really doesn’t matter. As long as you keep going in some fashion, the giant will slowly, but surely, break down, until there’s nothing left but a foot, maybe an ear, and you’ll think, “Hey. I can live with that!” and it’ll be over and you’ll be moving on with the rest of your life before you know it.

It takes time. And you’ll feel stupid. And it’ll feel so long and ridiculous and impossible. But when the giant’s gone, all the stupid rock throwing will have been totally worth it.

Karin Davidson


Karin Davidson is a highly sought after speaker on using meridian tapping techniques for self help and helping others. She is certified hypnotherapist, a Reiki master, an EFT Trainer, the first Matrix Reimprinting Trainer in the USA, co-founder of the Meridian Tapping Techniques Association and co-author of the EFT Levels Comprehensive Training Resource coursebooks. She has video taped and produced over 100 training DVDs for EFT, tapping, Matrix Reimprinting and many other energy healing modalities. Karin is known for her warmth, humor, and straight forward teaching style.

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10 Responses

  1. Madonna says:

    Hi Karin,
    This is fabulous. What an amazing testimonial.

    I seem to be lost for words.


    • Karin Davidson Karin says:

      Thanks Madonna, I will pass your wonderful words along to her. I’m so glad she was willing to help others with her story. – Karin

  2. Vera says:

    Hi Karin,
    I love her down to earth explanation of this stupid thing we are all so passionate about! Wonderfully described. Would you ask the author if she would allow us to translate it to Spanish for our website, please?

  3. Deb says:

    With tapping, is there ever an insight/explanation to provide focus for what the individual’s life perspective is centered on?

    Beyond the functionality and tasks of a life’s “purpose”, which is what you “do” as your spiritual purpose, what is the essence of WHY and WHO you are … and should bother to continue to be?

    Can tapping bring this insight?

    • Karin Davidson Karin says:

      The simple answer is “yes.” Tapping clears negative energy. So it can clear emotional reactions to past events, it can open up paths to all kinds of things – whether that is “why do I hate her” to “what is my purpose?” Usually, however, you can’t find your “purpose” until you’ve cleared the effects of negative learnings. That’s a big job to do on your own but it is possible. Lots of people choose to find an EFT practitioner to help. but you can start on your own with http://www.howtotap.com/movie But the really big stuff? – get a practitioner – even a doctor wouldn’t operate on themselves! There is an even more powerful EFT technique called Matrix Reimprinting. You can find out more about that at http://www.MatrixReimprintingUS.com/videos

  4. Rex Jantze says:

    I would like to suggest that another reason for the temporary relief and/or slow is a lack of mindfulness and resilience toward the issue being challenged and transmuted by EFT.
    Take depression: I defeated depression not just though using EFT but by anchoring myself to remember to notice throughout the day when depressed mood swings (or anger, anxiety, any non-resourceful feeling) would begin, challenging the feeling as nothing more than a conditioned state of my past triggered by an external environmental cue (a deep part of my old personality as a remembered sequence of emotional strategies,) releasing the the negative feeling with EFT (and another energy-psy trick in my toolbox) and then demonstrating a new feeling (a little help from simple NLP processes), giving the fifty trillion cells of my body the “all clear” signal for that cue. I understood that even my drifting thoughts were environmental cues for the subconscious body to respond. This is the mindfulness part.
    It was like doing a personal peace process as an active daily task, and it became like a game. I decided not to trust any feeling that was negative, even if I “believed” the circumstance warranted it. This was the resilience part. I would tell myself that the story in my head I was just making up (true according to neuroscience,) and then do the EFT to release it. After a couple weeks I can remember waking one morning and I knew it was done. I had demonstrated enough new internal strategies and sequences of good chemistry for it to rearrange and express itself on its own. I knew I had more work to do, but the new expression of self as a joyful being was emerging on its own, which is what it naturally does. Albeit it took some knowledge and information from my fascination with neuroplasticity, endocrinology, and even epigenetics (Read or watch anything by Joe Dispenza, Candace Pert, Bruce Lipton–all enthusiasts of EFT by the way!)) to understand what it was I was doing to demonstrate depression, or the skill and mastery of expressing the neurochemistry of depression (or anxiety, or anger, etc) as a personality. Thus the science helped give me “permission” to unlearn my old self and recreate a new self, and EFT was the tool I turned to to transmute those old subconscious strategies. A change in diet and exercise only improved and enhanced my transformation. Since my old personality was carrying the “story” of who I thought I was as series of triggers and responses, I chose to acknowledge and embrace “no story” as a neutral foundation to release from, and the new story of myself emerged on its own.

    • Karin Davidson Karin says:

      Hi Rex,
      This is wonderful. One of the most difficult things with CFS, or bipolar, or depression is to get the body and field to STOP projecting negative. We actually need to PRACTICE the positive. It’s a habit to immediately start thinking of the negative as soon as a positive is thought. Not to mention the Law of Attraction! It’s like getting good at anything, you have to practice!

      My clients don’t want to “force” themselves to think the positive when it’s just NOT TRUE… but it could be true, just like you say…. it’s a game. So play the game to win!

      Much Support,

  5. Kate Castrogiovanni says:

    What an excellent account of hope! I was told by AN EFT Trainer recently that I may not be a candidate for EFT. That depression can be near impossible to work with. It was suggested that I may have the potential to be a good practitioner but not a good client. It worked to get me through the 8th day of training but looking back I realize the surrender that came with that statement. Yep, another technique that seemed so promising and I’ve come (literally) so far to be told this won’t work for me! I really am broken and I always will be and I will have to learn to live with this because I can’t be fixed. I officially can’t be fixed. I’ve been dealing with clinical depression since I was 13 years old. I’m a pretty positive person and at 36 it’s gotten really really really OLD! I KNOW in my heart I can heal and be well and I have faith that this IS the ticket for me. I just am looking for the right people/person to guide me along. I am also looking to share with others and have done some already in conjunction with my massage practice. Is there any way to be in contact with Kari for more guidance? I’d sure appreciate it!! Thank you both for sharing this beautiful day of hope!!

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